Most of us hate liars. also, lying is one of those things where you'd hate it when others do it to you but it's ok when you do it to others. in other words, it's a big deal if others lie to you but you wouldn't care less if you lied.
To me, i think lying is the most useful tool/ability of humans. It can be used for manipulation. For example: by lying about certain facts, you can make someone happy. But when they found out that you lied, they will be angry. it can ruin or save relationships, and do many others incredible stuff. In the hands of a professional, it can be used for both offence and defence.
First, from the liar's point of view. (Oh, By the way i won't be talking about those who lie for fun or as a prank because there really isn't much to talk about. they are the only people you can be mad at for lying.) do you really think that he/she really wants to lie to you? if given a (better)choice, of course they wouldn't lie! given the fact that most of us are still 'humane' ( i.e. has a guilty conscience) do you know how much one suffers before and after lying? with guilt 'eating' us alive, do you think we can even live with ourselves for lying???
(I shall quickly move to the "victim's " point of view because it is quite difficult to continue this topic.) Before you hate those who lied to you and give them "ye silent treatment" consider this:
why do you think he/she wants to lie to you? to "save" themselves of course! to make lives better for ourselves we have no choice but to lie. we are, after all living for ourselves in this cruel world and everyone is competiting to be the best. sometimes we have to make hard and fast (and cruel) decisions that might hurt others. sure, this may seem selfish but...... err......
it is necessary.....yes.... and because of their actions, they have to bear the consequences, take the responsibility... blah blah blah...
now, since it takes two hands to clap, (sadly) you cannot just blame the liar for making your life miserable. NO. because you also contributed to your own suffering. This next bit may seem blunt but hey, the truth always hurts. *clears throat* IF YOU DIDN'T TRUST THE OTHER PERSON IN THE FIRST PLACE, YOU WOULDN'T BE SUFFERING RIGHT NOW! in other words, choose your friends carefully. And finally, don't do to others what you don't want them to do to you. which you know is seriously quite impossible. if you are nice, others will take advantage of your kindness. if you are not nice, you will have a lot of enermies.
so just think before you act.
Saturday, October 16, 2010
, 8:04 PM
